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I am just reflecting on my past experiences. when I was 19 I met a 50 year old man and fell in love. still in communication with him, I consider him to be family, I don't know if he shares the same view of me. I've set boundaries and we don't have a relationship anymore we are friends. I wonder how healthy that is for me since it makes it hard to move on. but I've had a few relationships/situationships with older men who I should not have been talking to. I was unmedicated and hypomanic a lot of the time. it hurts my heart a little to know that my bipolar makes me a little more vulnerable
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All you can do is do your best. You know your diagnosis at least. I'm 58 and divorced from a man who lied to me and wasted the best years of my life. I wish i'd been a lot more cautious about romance. Don't settle. If he's resistible, resist him.
There's a lot to be said for being single: freedom, spontaneity, not having to negotiate over every little thing, no constant compromise and never getting exactly what you want, peace, quiet, privacy, independence (especially financial independence), etc. Relationships are hard and when you add bipolar in, they're even harder. I find it easier to endure my bipolar as a single person. It reduces the suffering. I can tolerate my depression in private, without someone nagging me to be social and active. Last edited by JaneOnceMore; Dec 26, 2024 at 08:47 PM. |
ghostsinthehouse, raspberrytorte, unaluna
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How old are you now?
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Bipolar I w/psychotic features Last inpatient stay in 2018 Geodon 40 mg Seroquel 75 mg Gabapentin 1200 mg+Vitamin B-complex (against extrapyramidal side effects) Long term side effects from medications, some of them discontinued: - hypothyroidism - obesity BMI ~ 38 |
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Personally I love being married. Just sayin'.
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I am currently 24. My birthday is in August.
@JaneOnceMore thank you for that. If he's resistible, resist. that's something to live by. im sorry for your experience but im glad you have freedom from someone who wasnt treating you well. I do enjoy being single it makes life a lot easier and I don't have that pressing feeling. sometimes im a little paranoid too and start thinking that everyone hates me and that makes me destruct in relationships. it gets tricky to begin with and it has to be the right person |
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I think you will feel better if you treat yourself as an adult. 24 is young but still already an adult. Provided you do not seduce minor boys, there is no man you "shouldn't" be talking to. You can choose to have relationships with your age peers and it might be a very fine choice, but it would be a choice rather than your not allowing yourself relationships with older men. Meaning, choosing and not "shoulding" yourself.
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Bipolar I w/psychotic features Last inpatient stay in 2018 Geodon 40 mg Seroquel 75 mg Gabapentin 1200 mg+Vitamin B-complex (against extrapyramidal side effects) Long term side effects from medications, some of them discontinued: - hypothyroidism - obesity BMI ~ 38 |
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